It is more about making friendships. She has found that groups of people who met at her events have formed smaller social groups.
She plans three major events a year, usually at the Palos Country Club. There is always food, music and a no pressure atmosphere. Her most recent event in February was attended by people. Her next event is planned for May The dance floor is never empty. This is a way to be social again with a possibility of dating. Another friend suggested Plenty Of Fish, a free dating service. After three months of dating Mike Cervenka, another online match, Hoffman and Cervenka are engaged and the couple is looking at a September wedding date.
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Howard became my second husband and the love of my life. That made it all the more crushing when he died of a brain tumor two years into our marriage. Thus began a long period of mourning, in which I helped usher my two daughters into adulthood, and devoted more attention to my career. But I was awfully lonely. It didn't help that I went straight home from work every night and stayed in on weekends.
My friends would gently nudge me: Oddly, I'm a very social person. Why was I cutting myself off from the world? My reasoning was this: If I don't do anything, don't "get out there," nothing bad will happen.
As in no disappointment, no heartbreak. There's one problem with this line of thinking. Yes, if you don't do anything, nothing bad happens. However, nothing good happens, either.
So, seven years after my husband's death, I took the plunge. I signed up for online dating and even went to a speed dating session at a local bar. I approached online dating very seriously, enlisting help from close friends for my profile. It needed a dash of wit, a sprinkling of sass and an attractive photo. But not too much wit, and not too much sass.
As for the photo: There's no such thing as too attractive. After everything posted, I got a flood of responses from men. Not because I'm an exceptional catch, but because those who've been on the sites for a while tend to pounce on a new candidate. There were men who lived in other states and countries.
I can't afford to see you. And Skype relationships are pretty two-dimensional.
Men who mentioned sexual details in their profiles. Yes, we get that sex is important, even in middle age.
But this is just too much information! Men who were grammatically challenged. Either I'm not worth a coherent sentence or you are unable to compose one. My first online date was at a nearby bar.
I rushed home from work, put on a new outfit, makeup and perfume, and left the house looking and feeling like a million bucks. I walked into the bar where my date was sitting. Instantly, I could tell he wasn't interested. Not that I was, either. But since then, I always arrive earlier than the man on a first date to check out, rather than be checked out. The whole thing went downhill from there. My date spent an hour talking about what a long day he'd had, his allergies, and even checking out attractive women who walked by. The following night, I met a divorce lawyer for a drink.
That job description should have been a red flag, but remember, I was trying to put myself "out there. Yet, I tried to make the best of it, until he made a pass at me in the elevator. Want to seduce a woman?
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Trap her in a box and lunge at her. Thankfully, I escaped unscathed. After a few more encounters in which men talked nervously and endlessly about themselves, I met a man who seemed intelligent, attractive and interested in me. We dated for a couple of months.